Everyone is different
Just a short one, but still important.
Everyone is different
We all know that everyone experiences pregnancy differently, some sail through with no problem at all, looking absolutely gorgeous, luscious locks, glowing skin & just making of fun of other pregnant woman really. (Yes I struggled) But unfortunately for others, it can be one of the worst experiences of their life. But yet most of us do it more than once, because we forget what the pain is like, as soon as we have that little bundle of joy in our arms & fast forward a few months post partum, we've forgotten the aches & pains, restless nights, morning sickness, sciatica, bloating & most of all, labour, the worst pain you can experience, we're engulfed with huge loving emotions & to be quite honest, it's probably the lack of sleep that makes us so very broody, so even when our baby is only 2 or 3 months old, we'll see another new born baby walk by in the arms of their proud mummy or daddy & instantly want one. There is really no sense behind it, it's just the way it is really. The chemicals in our brain, this overflowing cess pit of hormones, caused by pregnancy make us a tad loopy. But we get there, slowly but surely.
What I want to talk about is why people think it's okay to belittle people who are experiencing, a not so good pregnancy, these people feel the need to tell Mum's "it's not that bad" "it can't be that bad" "you're not the only person that's ever been pregnant" & the favourite "I didn't experience this, therefore you can't possibly be going through it". What they mean is, they can't remember feeling like that because they've forgotten. It's like a family holiday, while you're on holiday, you're eaten alive by midges, the sun is too hot, you're having to get up early & get 2, 3, 4 kids up, washed, dressed & out the door to go & do the activities you booked three weeks ago & are now regretting that decision, because you'd rather sleep in a bit longer, suffering from having one too many budweisers the night before. Chasing the kids around trying to put sun cream on them, the tantrums, the money spent. All these small details are forgotten & we concentrate on the good times had.
Pregnancy is the same. No matter how bad it is, we remember the good feelings of being pregnant, the first kicks, first time hearing the heartbeat & seeing your baby & the best part... no periods! But anyway, I've come to the conclusion that when someone says any of these things to you, because they've forgotten what it's actually like, the best thing to do is say "that's nice" & walk away. Your feelings are valid, you're not being over dramatic, you're not over exaggerating. Your body is just dealing with pregnancy in its own way! We don't realise just how much we put our bodies through to carry this tiny human & yeah, you're going to be sore from carrying that weight around all day, there is no switch, you can't just turn off your pregnancy symptoms for a few hours & then switch it back on again once you've had a rest. Unfortunately, those long, tedious nine months are both the best & worst time of our lives. Please remember this before you put anyone else down for feeling the way they do.
Redhead.
